It is one of those days today. One of those days where we all struggle with something that we know every one of you are struggling with as well to some degree, or in some aspect of your life. We all need a reminder of forgiveness and understanding and knowing who the real victim is in it all. I have faced a number of words, or comments about my recent life events (I know, I keep dragging this on and on don't I?) and yesterday I found resolution in myself with the untruths or truths, or things that were said by individuals who didn't even understand that what they said was hurtful. How many times have I done that same thing? How many times have I said something so green and innocent and did not realize how sharp and painful it could have been to the person in the conversation?
I recently have held on to so much pain inside, and anger with myself that I felt it was everyone's right to make me feel how I have been forcing myself to feel.
In retrospect, I see that I have done this a lot-- not only in this circumstance but in seemingly millions of others as well. Give yourself a break today! You deserve it. While I sit back and think about how many times I've done it-- how many times has it been done to me?
Gossip is such a terribly deceitful and unfulfilling thing. You are not a victim, you are a survivor. Those who can gossip, or repeat unverified information-- they are the victim. Being a survivor is understanding that you must forgive others for their actions and not forget all the good in them based on moments of human weakness.
You've heard "Kill them with kindness"
Let's not do that, but rather keep your inner peace with kindness.
The moment you let others opinions of you, your lifestyle, or your ability to make YOUR own decisions affect those same things- you allow them to victimize you. You allow them to make you feel less than, or even embarrassment. No one has that right unless you let them! Be the change you want to see in the world. {I know I ripped that off from someone I should quote} Forgiveness and Understanding is a beautiful trait to have. Use it!
Love,
The Benevolent Burrell
